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I’ve found my way into a small group of incredibly supportive dads. And one of the ways in which we exercise rooting for our friends is to basically commandeer “jealousy” into a positive thing. “Ah man I’m so jealous that your kids sleep so well!”

“Jealousy” in a non-toxic manner feels kind of right for the task of describing wins that we all know are largely just up to random chance.

Being jealous of someone’s hard work doesn’t really feel the same.



This sounds beautiful. Thank you for sharing. I think Jealousy is a useful and important emotional state in society, and to wish it away and suppress it only makes it show up in violent ways. Like all emotions, if we allow and appreciate (and share!), it flows through us and does not fester.


Yes. Also envy may be the right word. You can both have something you are envious of. That's pedantic of me.

What I rly wanted to say is admitting jealousy vs showing signs of it are two diff things and you guys nailed it. Glad you have a good support group.




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