Yeah I think a lot of people are just old in this thread and are nodding along because that's how it used to be. They're talking for everyone as if they are the arbiters of what is sexy for everyone when it's clearly taking popular viewpoints from a specific time, place, and type of person. All of their examples of Phones used to be sexy are stupid. These people are just nostalgic.
The fact that they mention NEETs using Pornography and Video Games as supplements for relationship and achievement is a signal. Some people might do that but do you think most of these people would have done other decidedly sexy things had these things not existed? What is your argument? Even if it was true should we then force these men, who don't get attention from women, to do nothing but chase women and fail because it's "romantic", the world does not revolve around you. This woman sounds like those people who denigrate video games and pornography then watch 30 hours of trashy reality television a week and don't see the irony of their own behavior. We get it, your boyfriend won't pay attention to you because your relationship was poor in the first place and now you have an issue with others enjoying themselves.
Also, nothing is stopping you from being spontaneous, nothing is forcing you to look up the menu before you go to a restaurant. That is your active decision that you're crying about as if it's what everyone is forced to do. I have no issue being spontaneous and actively choose to not look stuff up all the time. People like this are the same type of people to try and police others behavior but never discover their own flaws or ignore double standards because it benefits them, and yet decry others are living terribly.
In this survey study of US adults from 2000 to 2018, sexual inactivity increased among men aged 18 to 24 years and 25 to 34 years and women aged 25 to 34 years during the study period, with the increase among men mainly occurring among unmarried individuals. Men with lower income and with part-time or no employment were more likely to be sexually inactive, as were men and women who were students.
People who have fewer entertainment options have more sex. (I've seen it said that e.g. people living on small islands have lots of sex, which is part of how they remain populated even with so many people leaving). That doesn't mean that they're sexier - having lots of sex because you're bored is no more sexy than watching lots of porn. (You can look at swinger groups for the extreme example - they have a lot of sex but are profoundly unsexy to most people).
While these trends exist, they don't directly correlate with the invention of the smart phone or the behaviors the poster is stating are unsexy. It has more to do with social education, reduction of religion, and many other factors not discussed in their post.
These are just two results from a 30 second Google search. There is a ton of information out there that directly correlates both social media and immediate, ubiquitous access to it (i.e. smartphones) with negative social outcomes, including suicide rates.
Honestly "smartphone bad" is such a popular thing to publish and claim, and so directly contradictory to my own experience, that I don't credit it. It's like the D&D satanism panics or something.
The fact that they mention NEETs using Pornography and Video Games as supplements for relationship and achievement is a signal. Some people might do that but do you think most of these people would have done other decidedly sexy things had these things not existed? What is your argument? Even if it was true should we then force these men, who don't get attention from women, to do nothing but chase women and fail because it's "romantic", the world does not revolve around you. This woman sounds like those people who denigrate video games and pornography then watch 30 hours of trashy reality television a week and don't see the irony of their own behavior. We get it, your boyfriend won't pay attention to you because your relationship was poor in the first place and now you have an issue with others enjoying themselves.
Also, nothing is stopping you from being spontaneous, nothing is forcing you to look up the menu before you go to a restaurant. That is your active decision that you're crying about as if it's what everyone is forced to do. I have no issue being spontaneous and actively choose to not look stuff up all the time. People like this are the same type of people to try and police others behavior but never discover their own flaws or ignore double standards because it benefits them, and yet decry others are living terribly.