Attachment parenting has some merits but is a bit over the top in my opinion. Do I want my kid to start screaming the minute I walk away or hand them to someone else? Absolutely not. I want them to be self confident and happy knowing that I would not leave them in a dangerous situation, give them to a bad person, and that I will come back for them. That is a truly "secure" child.
It's worth pointing out that there isn't any evidence (that I know of at least - I would be very interested to see any) of a link between 'attachment parenting' and secure attachment as defined by attachment theory, despite the similar names and the fact that attachment parenting is sometimes presented as a way to achieve secure attachment.
You're misunderstanding how attachment parenting works. In fact it's just as you'd like, that through this way of relating with your child/ren they become secure in their own sense of self. It is when the parents too early leave the child alone that they don't form a stable sense of self.
To be clear: attachment theory is a normal scientific theory which describes one aspect of early childhood relationship development.
Attachment _parenting_ is a fad parenting philosophy with no basis in science. It's founder, William Sears, explains that after coming up with the philosophy out of whole cloth, he made the connection to attachment theory.
You can raise a securely attached (in the scientific sense) child without following Sears' evangelical christian "attachment parenting" rulebook. Lots of people do.
